I don’t accept most of my emotions. Each emotion I have, I have to validate in my head. Sometimes, the emotion is too strong to deal with, and I react and am unable to control my urges in those moments. Mostly, that’s anger, though, I don’t handle anger well, and anger is a strong emotion. I have been working on recording whether on paper or my recording device all my thoughts, feelings and emotions. It’s been helping me work through each emotion as it comes. I believe that if people will simply take the time to reason with themselves, discover why they feel the things they feel, self analyze and look at their emotions logically, they will be able to work through whatever they need to work through. The questions you must ask yourself when you have an emotion are these:

Why am I feeling this way?
How should I react to this situation?
What are the consequences of this action?
If someone hurt you, why did that hurt you?
Was it something you’ve dealt with in the past?
What did your past actions accomplish?
Why is that person hurting you?
And is it intentionally to hurt you
or are they dealing with their own emotions now?
Would reacting hurt someone else?

If these questions are able to be answered, it helps working through that emotion. Many people feel emotion when events occur, but most of the time dealing with other people is what causes most emotions, especially the more you’re hurt by people. It would behoove everyone to learn to analyze themselves. That’s why a lot of people will go to therapy to help them work out their own issues. Some people are helped by talking things out. I’m one of those people, to be honest. I don’t want to be one of those people though. I want to be functional as a person. I want to be able to handle things on my own without outside help. The reason for that is because there will be a time where I don’t have anyone to help me. If I can’t work things out on my own, I’ll go crazy; and if I get used to having someone to help me, then I’ll be solely dependent on that person and that frightens me. People have their own lives, their own emotions to deal with. People are not dependable all the time and someday we all will be alone in some form or fashion. It’s kinda like I shrink myself to work through each and every one of my emotions, and it’s necessary. I have confidence, though, that if I can achieve an emotional balance, then I can help others to achieve that too. Sure, it’ll be nice if I can be well, but my main focus in others is to help them be well. I want everyone to be happy. I want everyone to love themselves and love their lives. I want everyone to have a good emotional balance because I know that will help them be one step closer to being who they want to be, who they’re meant to be. That will help everyone to reach their full potential. I love people. I will be here for anyone who asks, and I don’t think that quality in myself will ever change.